Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated

[sam4nh]

So I thought things would be settling down after I got back from my moms funeral....I was wrong!

Since I work over an hour away, my W has graciously volunteered to stop by the house and feed our dogs. I was/am concerned about this since, she seems to really be "involved" with with the house/dogs and coming and going as she wants. I setup a boundry of she must let me know and I must acknowledge her when she is coming over to the house. On Sunday I knew she was coming over but she did not knock and just come into the house like she still lived there. I guess I need to define the boundry that she must let me know/acknowledge and that she must knock on the door before just entering.

Tonight, she came over to feed the dogs. I got a call that asked me to please call her immediately. I called about 30 minutes later and she was crying and upset. It seems that she found a picture frame that I broke (yes intentionally) the day she moved out in early October. I forgot all about it and left it in one of the bedrooms. I had taken several of the pictures out of the frame and left them on a desk. We had other pictures from our wedding and so forth that I had put away since I really didn't want to be reminded daily that she left me. I did not destroy them, but I see no reason to have daily reminders of our marriage and that she no longer wants to be in my life.

She was extremely upset and screeming at me that I had better not have thrown away the things and she wanted them and I needed to give them to her. Her family gave them to her and I really don't want to keep these from her.

I know that destroying the picture frame was very childish and immature. She did not ask me when I broke the frame and removed the pictures and although it was not the right thing to do, I was extremely upset the day she moved out and this was in my direct sight and I broke it.

Thougths????