Hi Afa - I don't do 2x4s - well not intentionally I think you did fine this w/e.
I totally understand the "things I want to do are things "We" wanted to do." That's really hard. Best to put them on a shelf until you or we can do them then. Unless there's a really little one that you might do. Just to prove you could. Is there?
What's happened re planning that trip with your friends you mentioned before? Who's the organiser? You are! Only kidding but maybe you might have to be to make it happen. That would be an activity that was centred on you.
When I said Handy - I was kind of thinking I would like to beat the s^&t out of a piece of wood/metal and at the same time be making something really cool that was just for me and not the house or spouse. Afa's Project X.
Those kind of conversations with your W are no doubt emotionally exhausting esp as we can't see into the future. I think you did well to hear it for an hr or so. She sounds desperately confused. When does she see IC?
I guess a date might be too formal/meaningful for both of you - do you spend time together just the two of you relaxing, I remember she brought home some wine for you not so long ago?
