I'm just so caught off guard. We were the couple that people would point to in a room and say "they have a great relationship". Now it seems like everywhere I turn in our house I see her missing.
Its hard to think of anything specific that was going on in the last 18-24 months. - I finished graduate school which meant a lot of commuting at the time (it was something she encouraged me to do as part of a desired career change). I actually drove the long commute instead of staying there to ensure that it wouldn't damage our relationship! - Her boss's mother died of a stroke but they weren't particularly close. - She got a tattoo that turned out badly and has been getting it lasered off since. This was traumatic for her - her only tattoo and she traveled far to get it, and it was a meaningful design. - We decided to finally get pregnant - which was a big deal (all of our friends did years ago but we'd been putting it off). She was concerned about her body, about responsibility of having kids, about not being able to fulfill life goals if we had kids. (no idea why she didn't just say - let's skip it - I'd expressed being open to either option).
Also, the OM is someone who she professed to hate when he first started working with her. She actually almost quit her job because he was so rude to her. This was a few years ago and she says her "feelings" for him have been going on for a year though I question that (I doubt its that long).
