Answers to recent questions
Tumbling:
Yes, I've had the anxiety regarding GALing prior to IC. Partially due to me making my W my whole world, and because many of the things I want to do are things "we" wanted to do.
POA is still a work in progress. The "A" is the hard part.
New distractions would be helpful. I somewhat handy / have been crossing things off my "to do list" around the house.
W would always either text or call with complaints. I have been her sounding board for years. I'm generally a good listener. I've been mixing up the validation with the "trained answer."

Tori,
I'm still looking at the site. Some interesting peeps out there.

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Update / journal
So I did go out Saturday night to a friend's home and watched college football, had a few drinks. Prior to leaving though, W was making so many complaints about how disorganized the house was (lots of her and kiddo stuff). So it felt weird to leave. I wanted to stay and help. So I did the counterintuitive thing, and left. Good for me right?
I did come home late that night. Woke up early and left for a little bit. Came back home, and W joined me in the bedroom / sat on "my" bed and initiated talks. Again, a tearful conversation for an hour if not longer. Her confessing a multitude of things about how she misses me and cannot fathom a future w/o me. She added a few things about OM. How she realizes it's not going anywhere, that she's helping him instead of herself (similar to how I inspired her to grow and change for all these years). She expressed a wish to go on a date with me, but all of this not right now, not yet. I matched her emotionally and shared tears. I stood and heard many details. All and all, I think I did a pretty good job.

We took the kids to a pumpkin patch later. Hung out with her dad and his new girlfriend, and ultimately ended the night with her "thanking me for a good day, despite some of the tears." That kind of threw me.

So I guess what is needed now is 2 x 4. One that I can use to ground me and hold me secure without getting hopes up whilst continuing too DB / GAL and all that good stuff.

Oh, and I think the "Miss Me" song is my new theme song, in addition to the Jason Mraz, "I'll Won't Give Up."