That's exactly what happened. He forgot. Im blowing off steam here so I can conduct myself like a classy woman to XH. I refuse to be provoked to reacting like an ass because I wasn't on top of my emotional control.
It still stings a bit to see she gets free reign of that damn vehicle when I wasn't able to drive it at all. But it did take her constant bitching of not having wheels and finally getting a job after refusing for 9 months before he finally let her drive it.
I did receive what appeared to be a sincere apology by text from XH forgetting about the plans we made. I was actually blown away at how validating the text was! Monster XH, or moody MLCer would say " sorry. try again next week". But this is what MLCer XH says today.
"Crap sorry about that. When I got your text yesterday saying you had today and tomorrow off it clicked in my head that you were taking them, forgot you asked me to take them on Monday because of amber's tantrum's. how was she this morning? Will remember next Monday or did you want me to take them tomorrow?"
Yesterday I asked him if he was taking the girls wednesday and thursday for his visitation. instead of a plain "ya" as usual, I get this response:
"Yes wed and thurs night, still not sure what we are doing for Halloween, did they want me to take them around town or were you going to. Still don't know if I will have it off I assume so because I seem to be getting Wednesday even when Im on graveyard".
This is what I noticed. Chatty MLCer, appearing to be emotionally available and apologzing for being forgetful. Compared to andropausal MLCer with mood swings and being aloof and stand offish.
Either OW is not home, or he's cycling.
OR PERHAPS HE'S GETTING SOME THINGS. It just takes several weeks for the concept to be grasped by him? Hmmm. I did email him a long email about rebellion issues with D9 a month ago in addition to heartfelt request for his help and admitting I allowed my ego to NOT ASK FOR IT in the past.
My defense button has been pushed, and I get very leary when he's being nice.
HOWEVER.... I will calm down. Remember Karma will have it's way and from what I hear already has.
I have asked the Universe and God to please help us get on the same page for at least the children's sake. I told myself next time I saw positive actions from him I wouldn't flip out into defensive oblivion nor begin unrealistic expectations.
I wouldn't react in a way that would make him feel smashed on the head for making a mistake. I will carefully think over my response.
