Ed, I couldn't have said it better than how Alkaline said it. Do not withhold info about your S. I see you being an enabler because you have made excuses for her destructive behavior at times instead of letting her suffer the consequences of her actions. I hate to be harsh but I think you really need it. Stop being and playing the VICTIM. You made mistakes your W made mistakes own your mistakes, forgive yourself for them and stop allowing her to OWN you.
Right now I still you as weak and needy. When are you going to regain your self respect back and YOUR life? Do you feel that she is YOUR life? If so why? Have you really read up on how to detach? I don't think you have because you are still tied to every little thing she does , doesn't do, says or doesn't say. Is this how YOU Ed want to live the rest of YOUR life pining for her? What is it going to take for you to wake and realize that you do not control her but that you control you and only you?
What is it that you do to take your mind off all this? I'm not talking about work and things you do with your S. What do you do for YOU? If you do not take care of yourself and GAL you will always be the way you are now. Ed read as much as you can on here there is a lot for you to learn. Do you know what drop the rope means? That is what you need to do. C'mon Ed WAKE UP!!! YOU have work to do. NO MORE EXCUSES!
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out