No she is got no access to anything of mine. And I do understand she has to come to her knees and accept she is got a problem with drugs.
Regarding OM, I really do not know much about him. I believe he is a contractor of some sort, but not really sure.
I do have a sense more of less on drug use, I come from a "barrio" where drug use is the daily bred. Also, my younger brother is a drug addict himself, he knows he is, but just does not wants to end it.
It is a pretty though spot and situation XW is, it is a good suggestion to attend one of this Alanon groups to find answers on how to approach this problem.