So the last two days have been contentious to say the least. I had thought I was done. Now I am not sure. I contacted several attorneys. Basically, separation agreements are not very common here. They are more than happy to file a divorce. Not sure how I feel about that. Correction, I don't want that. I said a lot of things out of anger the last couple days. Unfortunately, I cannot take them back. I can't undo it. As I said H has been seeing XW1. They had no children and basically both cheated. He told me today that he cheated on her with me. I had no idea. I thought they had split up. They were divorced but apparently they were trying to get back together. I really had no idea. So that has me very very very concerned. I don't know what to do. I was hoping for some advice. We have been at each others throats.
A couple of issues- 1. I feel like he has not really had any consequences or even had the chance to miss not just me but the kids either. 2. How can I work on him missing us when I actually do need for him to keep the kids often? 3. How in the world should I handle this XW sit? I am beside myself. Truly. I just don't know what to do. My instinct is that it will fall apart naturally but of course I can't be certain. We just had a somewhat civil conversation. Hoping it will last. I need help to DB with a vengeance. My biggest problems- my mouth- I allow myself to be drawn in. I need ways to distract myself. I have a tendency to dwell and stew. I need to show him yet again I am the better option. lol I really believe he chose me once and I can get him to choose me again. I really need help in focusing. One of the problems as I see it- He sees me as being demanding or nasty. All the time. It is almost like a skewed perception. Often, I am not feeling that way or even think I am projecting myself that way. Suggestions on how to 180 those would be nice too. Anyone up for it?
