Last night my W and I ended up ML. My plan was not to ML this soon, but it happened. I initiated the contact and one thing lead to another and it happened. I felt that I might have crossed the line too soon.
Michele suggests in DR that ML is a good way to reestablish intimacy in a drifting marriage. I think it was an appropriate move. Believe me, I would do it in my sitch if given the chance You mentioned in your OP that W feels pressured in ML though, so be careful that she doesn't feel like you're starting that pressuring again.
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The next morning she was cold and somewhat distant, but not too bad for that matter. All day I backed off and not initiated a physical contact but raher continued my 180s.
Like GALbaby said, that's to be expected. Your reaction of pulling back a bit is a good one, just be careful not to come off as cold or distant yourself.
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I've gotta keep working and focusing on me and the kids.
Good, you're on the right track!
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A little backslide also happened to me last night and just asking her if the OM, had any contact with her lately, and she said no. I backed off. And now really realized that I shouldn't be questioning these things.
I'm not sure that's a backslide, perhaps if you had kept pushing her but just a quick question like that doesn't seem like a big deal.
You mentioned in your OP that W feels pressured in ML though, so be careful that she doesn't feel like you're starting that pressuring again.