You absolutely do NOT say you're sorry. It WOULD sound like manipulation. You show your feelings via your actions. As they say, actions speak louder than words. MLCers don't tend to listen nor remember anyhow to anything you may say. I'm not sure the specifics on your sitch, but you are right about focusing on YOU. We've all made mistakes in our marriages. Accept your shortcomings and work on correcting them for YOUR sake, not for H. I have never told my husband I was sorry about the part I played in some of the problems in our marriage. But I don't have to because *I* accepted my issues and worked to repair them for ME and didn't involve him at all in the process. But they often see the changes (when they're genuine) and that's more than an apology. It's moving forward rather than continuing to dwell on the past.
Being impatient will be your downfall if you don't work on that. When people tell you this is a loooooong process, they are not kidding. It can take years and years with no guaranteed results even if you do everything "right". Sounds like this is the first place you need to work on within yourself....
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
