I am trusting Him. She did too for years. It is just so hard right now. When you have D papers in your face and two children, it is hard to just detach.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I know man...I know. When i was going through this I prayed a lot. Whenever the fear and overwhelming feeling would take over me..I got right on my knees. I would go home for lunch everyday and just sit home and pray. I may not feel like it but He is listening. I actually miss some of those times...it was me, God, my bible and myself. It was in this time that He really worked in me.
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When you have D papers in your face and two children
It is in this time, this really difficult and chitty time that you must let it all go. Give it all to Him. You can't control it anyway man. Have faith dude, that He will see you and your kids through this.
Detach from Her and attach to Him.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Your separation is still rather recent, no wonder it's still hard for you. My own separation was in February and for three months I felt like a walking ghost. I don't know if it is of any help for you but it does get better over time. Focus on your own life and on your children as best as you can.
I do have a question. My wife is away with the kids, and she offered for me to stay in the house to take care of the dog. I am thinking of mowing the grass for her, as she used to appreciate things that I did. She tried to do it but didn't use the right blade settings. Would it offend her if I did it after she messed up?
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I don't think she'd be offended if you mowed the grass. Just do it. And if she does get upset just smile at her and make a joke. "Sorry, I needed that."
I am not your wife so I don't know if she would be offended that you mowed the lawn. I would say...if you are going to do it..you should do it with NO EXPECTATION. None. If you feel like doing it because your a hell of guy, well then go right ahead.
Me...I wouldn't do it...but then again that's me.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I did end up doing it. I don't have any expectations as far as her appreciating. I was more worried that she would feel that she did it wrong and I corrected her. Also, I actually enjoy mowing grass. Go figure.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I have some potentially good news. My w has offered for me to move back into the basement until process is over. She made it clear that sitch isn't changing. This is a wonderful opportunity for me. Any advice would be appreciated.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
