Good luck w/the job interview. You'll need to keep all of your focus on yourself early this week so that you be prepared for the interview.
Thanks Snodderly. With him gone I guess I'll naturally get more of my attention!
Originally Posted By: snodderly
As for your h's behavior, i.e., spending time w/you, the night time spooning, etc., he may be one of the slower learners in mlc. Right now, you aren't putting any pressure on him, you've backed away and given him space. He doesn't feel threatened by you and he feels he can come closer to you. His actions are very similar to a moth drawn to a candle.
He's let off some of his pent up steam when he dropped the bomb. Yes, once that happens, they do tend to act like nothing has happened until he feels that nagging feeling of being smothered or threatened once again. Authority figures tend to bring out the rebelling in them.
It shall be very interesting to see how he is after visiting w/his parents. Especially w/his father so emotional over the death of the family pet. It may bring back reminders of his childhood and what may have happened back then.
Continue to give him plenty of space and time.
This whole trip should be VERY interesting. I am interested to see 1. If and when he contacts me 2. How things go with his parents. There is PLENTY of history/bad blood there. While they don't know the details of the "crisis" they know something is up and have said how glad they are to have stayed together (64 years!!) They tend to be VERY authoritarian... wish I could be a fly on the wall. 3. If and when he returns. He didn't give me a return day and I didn't ask. From odd comments I wouldn't expect him before Sat or Sun.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
