Went to my moms for dinner after shopping with my girls! We had a great time...and laughed a lot. My mom is always great for making us smile.
Right when we were about to leave, H texts D. He hasn't contacted her all day since their argument this morning. He begins by telling her that he is angry at her and he hopes that she realizes how awful and dispicable she was to him. She responded NO. He then went back and forth with her about it and even my mom said out loud that he sounded like he was fighting with a high school girlfriend and this is his Daughter! He then said he was cutting off her cell phone for a few days for her disrepect. He did ask if he could come by our house since he was in town to pick up prescriptions for himself and she advised him we were not home. He asked where we were and she didnt answer. He then texted other D and asked where we were but she didnt answer. Really, he doesnt need to know where we are...
Now, I do not allow my kids to be disrespectful to adults, especially not their dad, but honestly, he has done nothing to deserve their respect lately. I did talk with her about it being disrespectful and her response was that he has done nothing but disrespect us since he left. I told D that I doubted that he would cut off her phone and he was just telling her that because he was angry. Well..we get home and he did cut off her phone. The next thing I know, Im getting texted...here is our conversation:
H: Hey- FYI-I turned off Ds phone just now for 3 days for her disrespectful attitude
Me: Im sorry you felt that was the right thing to do
H: I did. I sure hope you are not pumping her in regards to this. This is not your opportunity to get Brownie points with our children. Our disrepectful D needs to learn about consequences and boundaries. I understand that she is hurt...I knew you were behind this!
me: Thank you for your thoughts
H: I worked all Godda**ned day yesterday...I underestimated the importance of the dance but I was in the midst of very difficult work problems
Me: D told me..that's fine...i was here with her. She was stunning!
H: Whats your problem? You're unbelievable..I'm sad I missed it..it was a huge oversight on my part...I see you're really going to milk this for all its worth and use it to garner favor with them...and furthur alienate them from their father...I'm sorry you think that is the right thing to do
Me: I play no part...all I do is listen, hug them and wipe away the tears...They will always know I am here for them
h: Good for u...keep telling yourself that...I'm doing the best I can and am getting crapped on...I would see them everyday if I could
I did not respond after that...it was going no where. HE IS GETTING CRAPPED ON???? So, what happened was that he was upset at himself and somehow it ended up that it was my fault that D was upset??? Can anyone give me advice if I did anything wrong or said the wrong thing in texting? Am I crazy for thinking that he is crazy right now? I am willing to take the criticism if need be..I'm just floored that somehow this ended up my fault because I was there for her and he wasnt.
This was a terrible way to end the weekend...it has made me sooo angry at him that he can turn this around on me. Im the one who took her, picked her up, made sure to watch the clock while out with friends so I wasnt late, bought her dress and all the accessories, etc...and the one who is here every single day picking up the pieces of their broken hearts....UGGGG..
By the way, he NEVER asks to come here and see them except for Wed nights. He also had every chance to come back and make our family work and he would be with his kids every night. So, when he makes the comments that he would see them every night if he could...its total BS.
On another note...I mentioned earlier that he was in town picking up prescriptions...well, yesterday I got 2 calls from our pharmacy stating that he hadnt refilled his prescription in a long time and they were calling to inquire. I advised them that he could have taken them to another pharmacy and I gave them his cell # to call. I assumed that he had gotten new prescriptions and taken them to another place closer to where he is living now..but I guess he didn't. I guess he refilled them and picked them up tonight. This causes me concern, becuase H NEEDS his meds everyday and if he hasnt refilled teh scripts for awhile, he obviously hasnt been taking meds. Now, I know I cannot control this, BUT I really dont want my kids around him if he is not medicated...its a big deal when he isnt....just dont think I can prove this in court in 2 weeks:(
M:36 H:36 D14, D11, Baby due in March M:15 T:18 Met OW: 3/12 H Moved out: 8/12 Legal Sep: 11/5/12
