"W - I am happy to gather that stuff for you. Just let me know what specific items that you are wanting. I will box it up and leave it out for you to pick up one day next week. You can just let me know what day works best for you. Have a great weekend!"
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
That's if you prefer not to let her have access to the home. Many will advise that you don't allow such access. For me, it wasn't a big deal, and I didn't want my W to feel like our home was not her home. If that makes sense. Personal call. Whatever you are comfortable with.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
"Okay, i'll have to figure out what all i need. I hate to have you do that, but thank you. If its easier i could come when you're home but if you'd rather box it up & leave it for me thats ok. You have a good weekend too."
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
I'm am having an issue with how to handle this "winter stuff" situation. She didn't send me a list of things she needed. She said:
"I won't keep bothering you about this, i don't want to upset you. Please let me know when is a good time for me to swing by & let me know if i should come in or get my things from the shed. Thank you again."
How do I answer her? I dont want to seem like I am avoiding her but I really think its best to box it up and have her come get it. Suggestions?
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
Yes, just box it up and tell her it's available for her. Maybe call her and tell it to her in a friendly way then it's obvious you aren't avoiding her.
"W - I didn't get the list of things that you'd like me to box up for you. Maybe I missed a text or something. Send me the list and I will get it all boxed up. It's not a problem at all. You can come by ____ or ___ to pick it up."
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Can you just box up the rest of her crap and tell her that it's all ready to be picked up? You wouldn't need a list to do that.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I have been thinking about doing that actually. Maybe that is the best course at this point. Maybe I should just move it all into a storage unit so she can come get it whenever she wants...
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
Met a couple of new friends this weekend. Feels good to be out of my box finally. W wants her things for the winter and I told her I would box them up for her. I wishs I could get all of her stuff together and get it out of here but there is a lot of furniture that is hers and I don't know what to do with it!
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
It would be nice if it were easy. But if it's not, don't stress it. Box her winter stuff up for her and leave it in a safe place for her to pick up.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
