Just an update that there really isn't too much of an update! But I was suggested to post here often, and if it will keep me from texting him again or some other nonsense, I'll do it.
He slept outside again last night in his truck and luckily I had plans set up already for today to see a girlfriend of mine...so when he came in to the house (disguised as a dark cloud again) to make breakfast, I was already out of the shower and ironing something. He took his food outside and that was it. I left a few min later and he's already at work now till late. I'm sad that he hasn't made any effort even after I tried to reach out here and there a couple of days ago, but more so I'm hurt that he's not wearing his wedding ring. He left it out and hadn't been wearing it for at least 2 days. When I came home this afternoon and saw it sitting there, my heart fell. This makes me feel like maybe he's serious this time and not just being cave-like and withdrawn like he has done in the past when we've had a fight. He works around a lot of people, so to me it's like he's broadcasting our problems, or that he's done with me. Is this the kind of thing that's meant by the phrase
"Believe none of what he says and half of what he does" ?
I'm trying not to take it too personally, but to me it's like telling other people "hey look, no ring!" - why would you want to let people see that if you weren't seriously considering leaving? Aside from that and not speaking to me for 5 days, he hasn't done anything else overly drastic.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Also, how do you know when your spouse is "done with you" and when they're just pissed off and taking space?
My girlfriend suggested writing him a letter telling him how much I appreciate him, which would sound more reasonable if I wasn't also doing a 180. I told her, if my being there for him and reaching out to him has gotten me no response, what is this going to do?
Anyway, that's that. I'm going to go keep myself busy again!
