Good luck w/the job interview. You'll need to keep all of your focus on yourself early this week so that you be prepared for the interview.
As for your h's behavior, i.e., spending time w/you, the night time spooning, etc., he may be one of the slower learners in mlc. Right now, you aren't putting any pressure on him, you've backed away and given him space. He doesn't feel threatened by you and he feels he can come closer to you. His actions are very similiar to a moth drawn to a candle.
He's let off some of his pent up steam when he dropped the bomb. Yes, once that happens, they do tend to act like nothing has happened until he feels that nagging feeling of being smothered or threatened once again. Authority figures tend to bring out the rebelling in them.
It shall be very interesting to see how he is after visting w/his parents. Especially w/his father so emotional over the death of the family pet. It may bring back reminders of his childhood and what may have happened back then.
Continue to give him plenty of space and time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
