So sorry I haven't been on the board lately. I've been busy with schoolwork.
My coach wasn't a specifically trained DB coach, just someone who was very pro relationships and believed in marriage. He was a friend of a friend who was training to be a relationship coach.
Your H moved out in March right? My H and I are still not living together, only dating. I'm very happy though with the arrangement, as is he. We are exclusive though.
One thing I realise now is that they need to make up their own minds for themselves, otherwise it will not workout. It will be a false start.
It's also important that your happiness and fulfillment comes primarily from outside the R, and that it must come from your own individual life as much as possible. That will help your own independence and attractiveness.
Since we've been dating, my H has said that being with me now is the best because I'm so much more calm and loving. I've always been loving, but never quite calm, hehe. The separation made me realise what is important, and how much I appreciate him. You gotta keep the appreciation up.
I continue to compliment him regularly, and he mirrors that back to me. It feels like we both take more care of each other in a sensitive way.
I tell you, going through the rough patches makes you really wake up to what is important.
