I am agreeing with you like mad. it is the power- and we do allow them to have it. it is not a pretty thing...
my h is not particularly verbally abusive- the reverse really. just pleasant acting but doesn't communicate and we are definitly "not connected" . it's awful on a daily basis - and on a daily basis i kind of detest myself for allowing it to go on. i do feel that i'm only human and in pain here- but then have alwasy thought a bit more of my guts and gumption than to just be a stinking doormat. which i may be at the moment. very hard to be objective about this ...
and i'm having big trouble letting go and i'm also fed up to my eyeballs with it all. this man does not see my value at all (fool). it hurts like mad to feel totally like nothing to him. - he is so busy blaming me for all his junk- he has become unable to appreciate me. I've given him waay too much credit for being a nice & smart guy- NOT...
I'M WITH you tho, i flip and flop too daily - i think i need to just say no and make a giant gesture- i think the last thing i need to do is that - it all stinks alot and this very minute i hate him like mad (just letting loose here for the moment- feels quite nice to say something stupendously rotten). i'm pretty sure he's with ow and so of course i am fighting my continual urge to write an e-mail and tell him/them to go die somewhere and get out of my life. oh well.... why i keep fighting it- who the heck knows???
no extra charge for rant- you guys sure make sense to me..
