Another football Sunday here. H continues with "normal" behavior, as if bomb had never been dropped. He leaves tomorrow to visit his parents and an old friend (male). His parents' dog of 15 years just died and his father is very emotionally upset. H is both concerned and stung by this. The sting is because he remembers when at 15 his 3 yr old nephew died and FIL told H to "stop crying and get on with life". This sentiment sums up a lot of H's childhood experience. This death occurred just a year before H's parents left (H uses the word abandoned) him when they moved overseas.

I have a job interview Wednesday - yay! Fingers crossed. I continue to not initiate touching or speaking. I find H's continued desire to spend time with me, have night time "spooning", and be intimate bewildering. Other posts have stressed to pay more attention to actions than words, so how should I read his actions?

I am very wary. I'd give even odds on whether or not he returns from his trip and am fairly ambivalent about either result.

Strange times....

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.