I too have seen lots of confused messages from my H. He is involved w OW and is convinced he loves her. Nothing I can say or do seems to snap him out of his perception of his reality.
I guess that "be the better choice" option is the only thing I have to work towards...and I don't know what advice to give you except to keep a PMA (easier said than done, I know).
Time will tell. Everything I've read about EA/PA tells me that eventually MOST will run their course and hopefully they will "fizzle out." It is very hard to imagine that H could give her up, but in is out of my control, so I have to trust that Michele is her DB/DR books knows what she's talking about, along w all the Vets here!
Turtlegirl, I feel the same...my H didn't say he "loves" the OW but he said he liked her more right now before....and he kept giving me confused messages too...well, when we were still talking....I have a hard time imagining him giving up the OW too... and I know it's out of my control... gosh, i'm glad this place exists. I have a bit more courage to stay strong after I read these posts
And ready2quit, be strong! I know it's hard and I cry so much myself, but I'm feeling stronger already! The advices here are very helpful!
