if he doesn't pursue, he's not interested in being with you in the way you want him to be so it's for the best.
Yes very true SS and Labug and echoes "he's just not that into you" and that is why I am trying my best to lean back and create space for him to fill. But I am also Tumbling and I am an actor not a reactor.
What kind of R do you want, Tumbling? Write it out.
The first thing I thought of was our marriage vows. I will flesh it out when I have more time but this is what I want to give and receive. I wrote them and said them with no piece of paper - he read them
I will treasure and take care of our marriage, I will work with you to achieve those things that are important to us, I will respect you as your own person; Your interests and dreams will be no less important than my own.
I will love you faithfully, I will make you a part of me and in turn become a part of you. We will be equal partners in an open, honest, relationship. Through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy, Whatever may come, I will always be there as I've given you my hand to hold
The fact that I wrote them means that was what I expected in a relationship and what I wanted. If you turn the I to you - you will see my expectations
Is he capable of giving you that? Don't know. I made a big mess my end. I would have to ask him if he would recommit to these principles and agree what the actions would look like
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
