About to separate....

[dorightman]

She asked me this morning how my night was, I said fun. Then after breakfast in the car with the kids she said we have to have a talk. I said ok. She said it was unloving of me to do what I did last night, we just got a new puppy and she said it was insensitive of me to just leave her and the kids with the new puppy. Also, she asked me how I would feel if she just got dressed up and left me with the kids at night without telling me where she was going and no preparation. I said she walls me off, tells me to give her space every night and it wouldn't make much of a difference. I said I was only gone for a few hours. I was trying to give her space. She's in a crappy mood today and I can feel her coldness. She's looking at the attractive young men out on the street while we're driving. I'm just maintaining my calm and trying not to get affected. I want to continue my goal of one month of this detached, no kisses/hugs, taking care of myself routine to see if it will have a positive effect on her. The balance of tough love is very difficult, I hate the game I have to play, but nothing I've done so far has changed our sitch. I love her so much and I hope this will work for us.