What's happened for me over these months of being here and working on my stuff is that I now know that without change, I don't want a R with my H because we would be right back in the same predicament. Only now I would be wondering "When is he going to drop the next bomb?"

And I deserve better than that.

With him, as he is now, there are no overt warning signs.

Best advice anyone can give is GAL, work on you, ignore the other person as much as possible (detach).

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss