Lost and confused

[Soul.Searching]

Yes, I agree it is good for the kids. But, ultimately do what works for you and IMHO if he's willing to do family stuff after some time of nothing, it's nice to agree and hope for a good day. Please, don't have expectations just they can let us down at the drop of a hat.

Yes, well said! I should have added my own experience, we are S but W and I still go to some events together with the kids. D15 is on a drill team and we go together every friday with S9 and MIL to watch. We also go to lunch or dinner every weekend to hand off the kids. I have zero expectations during these get-togethers. We talk a bit, but we usually don't even sit next to each other. So you can do this and still maintain some detachment.

Thanks.
I have no expectations either but just seeing him brings on all kinds of emotions. Hearing his voice etc. plus it really hurts to hear him talk about HIS futcure. Especially when my children are in involved!! Talking about taking them on holidays etc. Yes I am extremely grateful that he still wants to spend time with them and that they will still get to go on a holiday this Christmas. ( I highly doubt I will have the money to take them on one.) but there is also a selfish, Jelious side of me that thinks I should be going too! That I shouldn't be denied of a holiday with my children because of him. I've gone off topic. The point is that I don't know how to detach while around him.