MIR, you are smothering her. Rather than pulling all of the strings you are pulling to try to control things and keep her from getting with OM, you'd be better served just lovingly confronting her on what your boundaries are.
And this:
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I also know that my behaviour is possibly accelerating her decision to strongly consider leaving me. I now have to give her her space on this trip which includes her definitely being in contact with the Biased Shoulder probably daily, and most likely some digital contact with the OM.
is a recipe for disaster. While you do shouldn't SMOTHER her, you do NOT have to "give her space" to contact OM while she's on a trip with you!!!
