Michelle, Wow, thanks for looking in on me. I feel like I know you a little from all the reading and re-reading I've done on Ali's threads. I feel amazed at the depth of support there is on this site.
Your advice about 'everything being better after the D' makes sense! so simple really.. I don't know why I keep getting bamboozled by what stbx says.
And you're right, he is in a lashing-out phase at the moment.
Glad to know too that i should keep on staying out of his interactions with the kids.
Sometimes I waiver - thinking that i should encourage them to contact him, etc. But this is just pursuit by proxy I suppose. Fuelled by my fear that he will replace the kids with a new family that he creates in retaliation by getting OW pregnant.
