vero, i think it's good you'll be in a restaurant when you talk. we are less inclinded to scream and yell in restaurants!

i also want to commend you on realizing that you were using anger to put those boundaries out and not your needs. it took me decades to figure that out.

i might help if you write down what you want to accomplish on the dinner and rehearse what you want to say. it helps me.

i know you'll be fine. enjoy the dinner, too! it will be nice to go without the kids and not have to be a mom, too.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing