Staying off the ride 2 - Leaning Back

[scaredsilly]

i think you need to change things because what "works" for you is direct contact; talking on the phone. he's texting and you want him to call. he's not calling. what you're doing is not working.

your second question, about how to reply, may be good. you'll be responding but also, letting him know you're not sitting around waiting. however, i wouldn't over do it or it will seem contrived.

i think you should drop any pet names on replies. if he says, "good morning, tumbling punky-do", just reply, "good morning."

if he says, "i hope you're doing well", say, "thank you"... and no smiley faces.

make no requests. show him you're moving on and taking care of your own life but not asking him to participate in it. this is what you probably should be doing, anyway, after two years.

to me, it appears you are too focused on what H is doing, feeling, thinking, etc. that will drive you crazy.

pull back. think and act as if you are fine and are moving on. if he doesn't pursue, he's not interested in being with you in the way you want him to be so it's for the best.