when do I start piecing ?

[Arsene]

I meant to ask you 7720, What have you done as far as 180s? I'm asking as this might help you relax around your wife. I know I used to be like you and always walk on egg shells whenever she was around. Now, I've done so many positive changes in myself that I'm confident in just being this new improve/improving me. If she gets upset over anything nowadays (which she hasn't in a while) I just know that there is nothing I could have done to avoid it as I am always calm, listening, validating and usually an overall loving, pretty upbeat nice guy. I even find that sometimes it helps diffuse potential situations. I read somewhere that "the way you look at people changes them".

Take care mate!