Arsene, I am almost certain that behind her cold demeanor, your W is feeling a lot of conflict. Be careful with the antidepressants...if you feel worse, immediately tell your doctor. Sending you positive energy...
Thanks Tori. So far so good with the A/Ds. It's not a high but I feel like I'm not actually affected by my thoughts (which are still there by the way). I've never been on anything like this before so I'll be careful and look for any signs that things aren't right.
About W being cold. I half expected it after all the good interactions we've had lately. I guess she step out of her comfort zone and now she's backing off. That's ok. I think I need the time as well right now.
Hopefully off for a good night of sleep now, it would be the fist in a long time.
Good night all!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Sleep well,,, I know that feeling...I still wake up 5 times a night and have to relive everything again....I go through periods of feeling strong and thinking I have turned a corner and then sadness and depression or anger..etc all the emotions come flooding back...I am trying to exercise a lot and watch what I eat and trying to do thought stopping...and trying to envision a positive future for myself...either with my W or without...it is hard though..
Hope you get a good night's sleep. This alone will really help with the depressive thoughts. I know first hand how this stuff affects not only sleep, but everything you do. So, hang in there, and take time for yourself tomorrow.
It wasn't the great restful night I was hoping for but I seem to be in a better place today, I guess. I feel numb, but still sad a bit.
I'm taking D8 to see a 3D animation today. I can't afford it but D8 needs it as much as I do so the heck with it. Let's treat ourselves.
7720, I hear you my friend. Not easy but you're doing all the right things. I wish I could tell you it gets easier with time as I'm sure it does. I'm just not there yet either.
I weighed myself last night at a friend's house and I'm a bit worried about my weight loss. I'm at 139 lbs which is way under norm for a 5'9" male (I haven't been this thin in over 30 years). The thing is I've been eating 3 meals a day (sometimes forcing myself to do so)and drinking lots of water and eating lots of fruit in between. I thought I was doing all the right things but how is this normal? I'm also exercising every morning and doing 45 minutes of laps at the pool 3-5 times a week. I went from wearing tight Medium size and 34 waist to wearing loose Small size and 32 waist (and now I'm losing my jeans so I'm considering getting size 30s). In other circumstances I would be happy but this worries me a bit. I'm starting to look gaunt. Any advice?
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
I would cut back on the exercise and eat some more calories like protein bars and shakes until you get your body stabilized.
Yeah, I have cut down on meat an awful lot, mainly do to financial situation but also for health. I've switched to tofu and lots of soy based food locals eat around here, and of course rice twice a day. I'll have a read on it online. Thanks Unbidden.
Re: the exercise, I'm not killing myself at it. In the morning it's just 180 crunches (in 3 sets) and 15 minutes of stretches and at the pool, I'm just setting a pace I can live with for 45 minutes. I'm no exercise freak by any means. I do it as much for the relaxation aspect of it as for the health benefits of it.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Hi Arsene, weight loss is nearly universal for all LBS. I also rapidly lost about 30 pounds in the beginning. Your BMI is 20.5 now which is still ok. You may look gaunt compared to obese people around you but I picked up somewhere that a BMI of about 21 is optimal for cardiovascular health. So enjoy your new body and be glad that you can indulge in any eating pleasures you like without being afraid of getting fat. One snack I like: a mixture of nuts (walnuts, hazelnuts, almonds). They taste well, the fatty acids are healthy and nuts contain a lot of calories.
