This is wonderful what you posted! I really like what you had to say, and agree with it 100%!
That is something I've learned over these past 18 months since BD, Divorce, and now after divorce. Bending SERVES NO ONE!
I used to get mad at myself for bending and letting XH cake eat and not stand up to all the crap I let him pull for several months. But now I don't get mad because I was doing the best I could in a very, very emotinal situation, let alone insane situation.
But eventually I did realize I could no longer allow his spewing influence all my choices. And that during our marriage I came to have 0 expectations of him and didn't require him to meet me half way on anything. I decided that I wasn't going to do that anymore. I am so glad I made that choice. Im sure XH doesn't like that. But quite frankly.... I really don't give a damn anymore!
