BklynMom, Okay that last line made me laugh because one thing I noticed was much less money I spent, less laundry, and less cleaning...look for the positives...
Like I said, success isn't measured by saving your marriage it is saving yourself and coming out the otherside a better person...with or without your spouse...
There were many times I was done...I knew I was ready to really work when he did come home because I no longer needed him...I was making it on my own, had a good job (my first real job that was a supporting wage), and had GAL...I had friends around, went on vacations, treated myself when I wanted, got to choose where I wanted to eat...so at that point I wanted him, wanted it work...but didn't need him and didn't need it to work...I was going to be okay either way!
