Creating your own Closure

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Wow Kim this is very powerful - this is gonna sound like a rant but I am just gonna go with what I feel right now

I don't know how to balance this myself - fact is we become passive and submissive and basically let them do what they want -- no relationship can survive if the person we are trying to reach has ceased to value us at all -- while bending may serve a purpose I don't think anyone can value us when we are trying so hard to save something the other person does not want.

My therapist says NO ONE RISES TO LOW/NO EXPECTATIONS - if you let someone do whatever they want to you and put up with it they will turn up he heat and try to break you -- OUR ONLY POWER LIES IN LEARNING TO VALUE OURSELEVES and stop reacting -- WE NEED TO BE ABLE TO SAY WE ARE SORRY AND FORGET ABOUT IT OURSELVES this is something that gets lost because the MLC dumps so much blame and guilt on us WE BUY IT - and when they think we believe they are right we give them more power cuz if we own up to it THEY MUST BE RIGHT - IT MUST BE US.

Sorry about that rant but I am feeling FED UP today -- just some thought I am having in the LBS jungle today -- LOL

I will probably contradict all of this in tomorrow and through the next week I am having a LBS crisis --

Thanks for this post it's awesome --