So, W sent me an email that we are unable to refi the condo. Now, I always do the financial stuff but had her call as it is time for me to not take care of everything..
My first inclination was to write back and ask if she had asked X or Y question and if she had told them XYZ.. as if she could not have done it correctly or thoroughly. (part of it fueled by my resentment no doubt)
but then i realized that it was no wonder she calls me patronizing...
so i just thanked her for looking into the refi..
LIGHT BULB moment!
and then today, she texted asking me if the guys who are renting the condo are definitely moving out in May...
she did not say why she wanted to know.
(and of course,i am wondering bc she had said something once about moving in there herself in May)
i was so tempted to ask why but i just texted back that i did not know... and i have not really thought about it much since.
I am SURRENDERING! WHITE FLAG!
That is me waving it proudly at our picnic!
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
Yes! How great does it feel to wave that white flag, huh?
(((((NG))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
NG- I love it...can I wave the flag with you? It might rub off on me and than I can start waving my own! A blanket full of shot drinking, flag waving kick a$$ people.
I think you are going to start a trend. :-)
A round for all on NGs special day!
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
My birthday turned out to be really fun. Some friends threw a bbq and bonfire on the beach for me. It was a cloudy day and was sprinkling early but it cleared up and we had a really great evening together. I feel really blessed to have the friends I do, IRL and here.
W texted her hope that I enjoy my birthday.. I texted back thank you.
I had some bad nightmares about her and our sitch last night (maybe from too much partying?) ... and would wake up feeling unsettled and sad but reminded myself that i am surrendering and that this is in God's hands... that truly helps.
so the white flag is still waving!
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13