Stop this crazy train I want to get off!!!

[wishing, hoping]

So things have been quiet for a while. H tried to get me back on the roller coaster though. Yesterday he rented a trailer and took S up north to pick up some things at his mom's house which he was storing at OW's house. Before he left he asked if I knew what was going on. I told him yes. He says well you know OW is going to be there, right? I said no S said she wasn't going to be home. H says well she lives there so she will be there so I just walked away. He said that isnt going to be a problem is it? I said yes it is a problem because S isn't supposed to be around OW (court ordered). He said well what do you want me to do? I said that's up to you. You know the rules. He went on and on and I finally said if you are looking for me to tell you its okay and that I give you permission it's not going to happen. He throws up his hands and says I guess they will just not see each other.

Today he calls me and tells me I have to reschedule S's counseling session since he can't make it and he wants to be there. I told H it's just for S and the counselor and parents do not get involved. He says I need to cancel the appointment and I am not to schedule new appointments until I clear it with him and I give him multiple options for the appointments. I tell him I am not cancelling anything and he tells me then he will cancel it for me. I try to explain that he counselor wanted to meet with S in two weeks and that was the only appointment for a month. But of course you can't argue with a crazy person. So I just said goodbye and I hung up.

H is also freaking out a bit because last weekend he left check stubs and deposit slips of checks he received and did not deposit into our joint checking account but his own account. He realized his error and asked if I saw them and I just acted like I didn't know what he was talking about.

I am wondering if something happened to flip the switch or if he is just grasping for control? But again I am letting him control how I feel because I am worries this is going to look bad on my part. All I want is to get my son the help he needs and all H is doing is standing in the way.