So the meeting never took place between W and OM, however my actions about staying home may have cast a negative light on things. Mostly the meeting didn't take place due to schedule of OM. I played off my days off as working from home after a medical issue (all true), then having had scheduled an aditional day off a while ago and surprising W with an extra day for me to get things in order and to help clean the house before leaving (something she always insists on doing.
However this may have had an overall negative feel to it and alot has to do with the "biased shoulder" in a family member of hers that totally needs to get the F*$k out of our business. Unfortunately this wont happen and I really two people against me here. In this person's eyes, my W can do no wrong and they are living vicariously through my W and this whole situation. I also know that I have pushed my W away a bit more because of this as she mentioned that she feels she has a shadow, etc. This is the first time in a while she has actually said anything truthful to me, but.... And after stating this I did back off and was not in the same room, but I guess the fact that I was in the same house still caused ill feelings.
I also know that my behaviour is possibly accelerating her decision to strongly consider leaving me. I now have to give her her space on this trip which includes her definitely being in contact with the Biased Shoulder probably daily, and most likely some digital contact with the OM. I truely have the deck stacked against me. What I really cant stand is that They think I am in the wrong for suspecting something when there IS something!!!! and now unfortunately they are looking at me as being on the pathetic side of things because of my recent activities. I really have not deviated from much of what i was doing but there was extra time home.
Ironically enough, a big part of how I got here was that my W has alot of free time with her job......free time to think of how better it is on the other side of the fence. And this family member is also a huge issue. My W is more open with her than me and has been for as long as I remember, and that has been frustrating beyond belief.
This may have been a bit of a venting, but I have no where else to turn to right now to discuss this. I am going to have to confront immediately when I get back from this trip b/c if I take another day off (even though I can and it probably will take that much time to talk) it will really cause an uproar and negativity that I probably will not get through with talking.
I will be updating regularly and hope to hear from the community. I am going to need the support.
