I am still under moderation and my post will probably show up too late for your evening yet I'll try to comment. I know what you describe. My approach is to ask myself: what do I have to lose? Nothing. The separation has already happened, it can't get much worse. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your wife then stay silent or listen to anything she would like to share with you. Don't assume that you depend on her judgment. If direct conversation with your wife is too difficult then just joke with your daughters.
