Hey RH..I have to agree very strongly with Snodderly, we all care about you here and can see what is happening. We have been telling you for a long time now to get off the rollercoaster and don't be so available for your H. Get tough with him. Its called tough love!
It is hard to see it when you are firmly entrenched in the same patterns. Even though I seem to have stalled my D for now, I have had many friends in the situation where their H has promised to take care of them, then things get nasty. You have been too available for your H. He is doing what he wants and you are left picking up the pieces.
You can still be his friend. You can still set boundaries with a friend (I need to take my own advice here).
The advice is sound. Take care of yourself and your boys. Do some fun things together.
