I don't think the response was tough love, it sounds more like trying to teach her a lesson and guilt her. Her choices are her choices.

Let go of that. As 25 says, it's not your job to hand out consequences, life does that.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss