Hello! 20 year marriage teetering on the brink...

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But in most other respects W hasn't really changed much. She's still a loving and caring mother, a responsible worker, a kind person in general and has not exhibited the "opposite" behavior that I've seen described in MLC threads. She's never once gone monster (or anything close to it) throughout this whole process. She's actually been very kind and considerate towards me and was there to support me in the worst stages of depression after BD. Now there have been some MLC signs- she dieted and lost about 20 pounds, she started wearing sexier underwear, changed her hair style a bit. But no radical transformation, no "alien transplant". Maybe that is still to come, only time will tell

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AS, I think I'm married to the male version or your wife-minus the sexier underwear. But what do I know? He may be wearing sexier underwear now!

As his niece so aptly pointed out to me this week: "He's got a big ego that won't allow him to admit he's made a mistake even if he thinks he has."

She nailed it and I've known that all along.

Good luck to you. You're doing a fabulous job at this.