Now Separated, Am I doing the right things?

[labug]

Rough, do you see how far in the future you're living, or trying to live? You're robbing yourself of today by worrying about things that may or may not happen and you might feel very differently about them if and when they do happen.

Of the things that incite your fears, which do you control?

Having no control is a very scary thing for most people and we will say and do many crazy things trying to maintain or regain control. So when you find yourself experiencing an adrenaline dump and trying to control something ask yourself, "What am I fearing right now?"

Ask the same question when you feel angry.

This is not to say that your fears aren't valid or that you should stop being fearful (then you would be dead) but rather that you face your fears, examine them and live with them. I think you will find that the more you face your fears, the less power they hold.

Worrying about them will change nothing, it's a waste or your precious time.

The best you or any of us can do is let go, stop trying to control, stop trying to change others. Focus on you each minute, each hour, each day and tomorrow will take care of itself.

I would suggest writing your fears on paper and then the truths as Carnac suggested.