Kicking a$$ and taking names!

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rH,
I truly hope that I am wrong about your h, but many of them are nice to get what they want. They know that if they remain nice and pleasant, we will melt and allow them to have whatever they want. I don't think your h dreads a nasty divorce. In fact, I don't think he even realizes what a divorce entails and what it means once the ink is dry on the decree. You need to start thinking of your situation as a business deal and he's broken the contract. As the second partner, you need to rely on your intelligence and knowledge of your situation to get the best deal for you and your sons. I don't mean take him to the cleaners, but what you will need to live comfortably. You are entitled to half of everything and don't let him tell you otherwise.

When you get the information about the vehicles and have your budget worked up...hold the information close. You will need to provide that to your lawyer, not your h. Your h will try to dicker w/you and beat you down to a lower amount as to what the vehicles are worth...don't go there. This is where your lawyer will do the necessary work to ensure you and your family are taken care of. Keep the information to yourself for now. Let's see what he comes up w/on the vehicles.

Your h wants his cake and eat it too. You can't stay under his thumb. Yes, it's repulsive if you give in to him and do what he asks or expects of you. The man is showing you absolutely no respect. rH, take back your respect and stand straight and tall. n order for him to respect you, you have to respect yourself and that's where you need to stand straight and tall and do not bend to his whims.

You can do this! Limit the text messaging. Maybe try twice a day and then reduce it to once. You have things to do w/your time besides being his "mother". Look at what he's doing while on vacation...acting like a teenager and sending texts to mom and posting on facebook about the drinking/partying. Does this sound like a mature man w/a wife and children at home? You do realize that you helped him save for this trip? He wasn't paying you a lot of money and then crying the blues about the grocery expenses. Some of the money he used on this trip should have gone to you and your son. He's not my h, but I'm angry for what he's done to you and your son and continues to do as long as you allow it.

The bulbs you ordered sound like they will beautiful next spring. I'm like your friend, what are you interested in doing hobby wise? It's time to start thinking about what you would like to do for yourself. Winter is coming and I'm sure you have some hobbies that you've put on the shelf that can now come out and be completed.

Set your boundaries and stick to them! It's the only way that he will respect you.