Kicking a$$ and taking names!

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rH,
You are already starting to waffle about the boundary you wanted to put into place about him visiting w/your son elsewhere. Stick to the boundary! Your h knows you so well and knows that if he sweet talks you, you will melt in his hands. This man is planning to divorce you!!!! Step up to the plate and respect yourself. The only way he's ever going to respect you is if you keep to your boundaries.

Also, reduce the texting back and forth. How do you know that the amount of texting isn't a way to see what you are doing. It could be his way of keeping tabs on you. If you are in bed or it's time to go to bed, you can respond back to him in the morning. You are not there to be at his beck and call. Trust me, he's not thinking about you when he's out w/his friends and w/his good old buddy...the bottle.

The shaking hands can come from drinking too much, anxiety, being nervous and not eating enough.

rH, have you done the research on the vehicles yet? You can locate the Kelly Blue Book at the library or go on line to get an "estimate" of the worth of the vehicles. Please do not trust your h to be honest w/you when it comes to the final divorce decree date. Others will attest that their spouses promised to take care of them, pay their mortgages, help with education, etc.,...bottom line, they became selfish people and the lbs had to fight for what they were entitled to. Why? Because the mlcer will tell you anything you want to hear just to get what they want. rH...buck up! Set your boundaries and do the research as soon as possible. Also, prepare a spreadsheet of your expenses for you and your family and have it ready because if he's not paying you enough now, you can rest assure when he returns he's going to be back on that kick again about the grocery expenses.

You can constinue to stand and be friendly w/your h, but you have to start thinking of your future w/o him, if he should move forward on the divorce. "Nice" isn't going to put food on the table nor is "ML" going to pay your bills.

I'm sorry if I'm being very blunt this morning, but I see you starting to melt and second guess yourself. You do not want to become a doormat. Give this man space and allow him to miss you...don't answer his every text message.