I wanted to share a bit of an update tonight. Things may reach a tipping point but the timing is not correct in my opinion and that of some here, but it is in the opinion of others here as well. Let me explain...
As things stand I personally am not ready to make the confrontation because I am unable to shore up my finances I spoke of which will take another week approximately. I also do not know all of the legal ramifications that might flow from this ( no kids so at least that wil be avoided). But according to some I need this before moving forward.
And the other side is that W was with me today, therefore no meeting up w OM. However, I believe plans are being made for tomorrow under the guise of a fallacy that i can call her on. I am NOT willing to accept this meeting at least without confronting to stop it, but possibly not fully (due to above).
Again ideally, there would be no contact before our trip (leaving Sunday morning). And yes part of what I hoped was that we would spend the week w friends and enjoy it. As for her actions they point to her wanting to have a good enjoyable trip. And yes another desire is that this would provide her another week to spend w the new MIR and realize what she would be giving up (the plan A as has been mentioned). Immediately, after getting back the confrontation would occur as my ducks would be lined up finally. And that is when MY boundaries would be set.
But as I mentioned, this may be derailed a bit as i will have to somewhat confront tomorrow ahead of when I am truely ready, somewhat like Chatter's explanation of his confronting (posted btm of pg 7). I will hopefully have more information in the morning as i don't think anything will happen until the afternoon.
Again, I am not using/hoping the trip is the magic bullet. It is setting the final blocks in place for confronting, and i need that time for my things to get in order.
Starsky - still hoping I can get your advise/wisdom concerning the legitimate martial issues question you posed to me, along with the most recent of my posts.
Eric thank you for the insight in your last post. About the scary question reference, I am not trying to have others tell me. I guess I am trying to figure out how far to push without driving away. I realize this is uniqe to each situation and was wanting guidance from others' experiences. And I am NOT comfortable w OM in picture, I need to figure out your other question.
I will update again in the morning. I hope some of you will be able to respond. With each one i am growing stronger in my resolve.
