My post ^^^ meant the realization was important but not easy. I was out of town and posting too quickly.
I'm following along.
I knew what you meant. :-)
I was talking to one of the ministers from church today and she asked what if H came and said he had made a mistake and wanted to come back. I told her I wasn't sure what I would say. She said you have to forgive. I told her just because I forgive doesn't mean I will take him back. Plus, I don't think he'll ever say that.
Needless to say, I'm feeling a lot less hospitable than I was these last 9 months. H leaving showed me that I don't mean enough to him to stay and fight. I want to be with someone who is going to be here through good and bad. Not just when everything is going their way.
