"About the not being needed thing...would it be okay if I had my boys write/draw about the things they like/need about their dad to give to him to have when he moves out?"
No because that's being controlling on your part. You're (even if it's unconsciously) trying to get a reaction out of him. Which you wont. He has to miss this in order for him to want it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.