Quote: You asked if you could make him see what he is losing. I think he does see it, but refuses to accept that he can be happy and is afraid to risk it. YOu know the story.
Seattle, nice of you to come visit! Thanks for saying this. Somehow you always use the words that articulate my thoughts better than I'm doing. I really hope that he does know and does see and realize... but then that makes me sad too that he'd still choose to keep us apart.
SS, yoga is amazing. I was just saying to a friend yesterday exactly what you said: I DO feel differently when I'm not practicing. The web site is for my new editing/copywriting business. H suggested a while ago that I download a template and use that, and I don't know how to make it work. So I may just scrap the money I paid and make a basic one in Frontpage, though it won't be as impressive. I mentor a teenager and his friends told me the other day that it's easy to make a web page, so apparently I'm just clueless...
The BIL thing really has bothered me -- even though logically I know better. I've stayed friendly and actually developed better Rs with my BIL/SIL during our S. My H and his B aren't close, but they both kind of wish they were. I wish they were too. My MIL has done her controlling best to derail our friendship, however, so I think some of H's comments may be MIL-instilled too.
Deb, you should have big smiley faces near your name. You're always so cheery and positive. Thanks so much for spreading your sunshine my way!
I really hope that he does know and does see and realize... but then that makes me sad too that he'd still choose to keep us apart. 
