The best advice I can give you right now SG is to work on yourself. Become the person you were that attracted your W to you in the begging. Do not act out of fear. Let her know that she can come to you if she needs to. She does need to work this out herself but you shouldn't be cold to her that's not what DBing is about. Be the rock. Don't let her tell you when it's over you be the one to decide when it's over and by that I don't mean to actually go up to her and say that you'll decide when it's over, lol (check my thread that will tell you when you decide it's over).

Right now it's a crazy time for both of you and you are going to hear more crazy chit then what you've already heard. Do not react to it at all. Let it roll off your back. Do not show her any anger. It seems she is already confused by you being kind. She isn't expecting that from you. Most of all please make sure that you are taking care of your S. You have a tough road ahead bud but no matter the outcome remember you will be better no matter what happens.

M 44 W 43
S 23 S 15
INILWY 9/11
Divorce Mediation started 3/13
June 30 the day W is moving out