Quote: My C said recently that H is doing what many people in his sitch do: mistaking the pain he was feeling for the M as a whole and throwing out the wrong one! Path of least resistance and new life and all that stuff Seattle said earlier.
Also said only a man who didn't want to see could miss seeing the opportunity he now has with his W... that THIS is what intimacy is truly about if that's what he's really seeking.
AND C allowed me to see that all this "stealing BIL" stuff is just him projecting feelings of loss-- more of not wanting to go deep and ask himself what the real reasons are that he "wants to" leave his M and lose all these things he says he is losing... asking what is really worth all that and are his M issues past or present?
WOW! One smart C! I totally agree! I pray your H wakes up before he goes through with the D, but there is always the option of remarrying!
