Aww, you're all making me teary now! Thanks for the support.
Mooka, I guess it is about time I learned to do my analysis in the company of friends instead of with H (which is what I did for too long!). Now at least I know I am able to speak more clearly because I've gone over it and gotten a wider perspective.
Lee and SS, My C said recently that H is doing what many people in his sitch do: mistaking the pain he was feeling for the M as a whole and throwing out the wrong one! Path of least resistance and new life and all that stuff Seattle said earlier.
Also said only a man who didn't want to see could miss seeing the opportunity he now has with his W... that THIS is what intimacy is truly about if that's what he's really seeking. I hope it's that clear, but can't make a man see something he's trying not to see... or can I?
AND C allowed me to see that all this "stealing BIL" stuff is just him projecting feelings of loss-- more of not wanting to go deep and ask himself what the real reasons are that he "wants to" leave his M and lose all these things he says he is losing... asking what is really worth all that and are his M issues past or present?
Good food for my thought, as it helps me take things less personally and realize he's still muddled up in there trying to (or maybe trying not to) get a handle on things.
I am back to morning yoga as of this weekend and feeling very good as a result.
